Are you having a hard time understanding what you truly love to do in this life? Or are you struggling to have a clear vision for your life? Or are you constantly feeling stressed, losing yourself, or frustrated? My goddess friend, I’ve got you covered.

In today’s article, I am so excited to share with you 7 elegant steps and tips to discover who you really are and what you love, so you can live the best life you deeply desire!✨

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Hello, my beautiful friend! Welcome back to Haute Couture Life. If you are new here, welcome! My name is Mana and I am here to talk about how to be an elegant and beautiful lady inside and out.

In this channel (and website), we talk about an elegant mindset, beautiful style, and plant-based health. If you love to master these and be the goddess version of yourself, please make sure to click the subscribe button, I appreciate you so much.

Today’s topic is all about discovering who you are with 7 elegant steps to being your most beautiful, elegant, and true self.

First of all, what is the true self? In Haute Couture Life, we define it as knowing and honoring who you really are. I promise you, that when you become your true self and own who you are, you will always feel your best, living life with beauty, excitement, and joy. Are you excited? Let’s start with each step.

1. Turn Off the TV and SNS

The first step to be your true self is to turn off the TV and SNS.

In this digital age, it is so easy to get distracted and listen to what others think but to be your true self, the first step is to turn off all the outside noise and listen to your own voice.

Here is a great example. If you tend to search on Google something like “Is this food good or bad for health?” The answer is always both.

Some people say potatoes are good, but others say they are bad based on their personal experiences and studies. In the end, this is your life. It is very important to focus on what works best for you. What do you think about it? How do you feel about it? (Of course, I’m talking about fruits, veggies, nuts, and seeds here💕 Animals are never meant to be our food✨ Plant-based foods enhance our beauty!🌱)

TV and other media are always designed to grab your attention. Also to give your brain a rest, it is great to turn them off and practice listening to your inner guidance.

Once you have the space, you will have more time for precious activities you truly enjoy. You can ask yourself: How do I actually want to use the precious time of my life? What kind of activities or hobbies would I love to do if I don’t use the internet or watch TV or SNS?

I know some ladies reading this article (Thank you❤️) were born in the era where using social media and the internet every day is completely normalized, maybe even every single minute. But it is amazing to stop looking at others, focus on yourself, and think differently.

It will help you discover who you are, which leads to the second step.

2. Have Alone Time and Journal a Lot

The second step to be your true self is to have alone time with yourself.

How many times do you take time for yourself, truly without any devices? Are you the type of lady who can enjoy alone time, or do you need to be with someone all the time?

To be your true self and feel ultimate freedom and fulfillment, it is always great to have alone time with yourself. It will enhance self-confidence, self-love, and self-trust, which are the beautiful traits of an elegant and independent lady.

You can grab your favorite pen and journal and go to your favorite café. You can also do it at home. Take a deep breath and start asking yourself simple questions, leading to the third step.

3. Ask Quality Questions with Playfulness

The third step to be your true self is to ask quality questions with playfulness

Mana, what is a quality question? Okay, I would love to teach you with an example. Have you ever said and experienced “Why am I so lazy?” or “Why do I feel so tired?” Since you said and focused on them, you experienced more laziness and tiredness.

Did you know that our brain always answers whatever it is asked? So here come quality questions. A quality question is always high quality and provides you with great focus.

Instead of saying and asking the brain unconsciously Why am I so lazy?” or “Why do I feel so tired?” you can practice asking yourself: What makes me happy? What brings me joy? How can I be more productive? These are great questions because if you practice and keep asking yourself, your brain will come up with the answers.

To discover who you are, you can simply start asking questions and writing all the answers in your journal: What color do I like? What kind of fashion style do I really like? What country do I want to visit? What kind of experience do I want to have in this precious one-time offer gifted life? Asking yourself those questions on a daily basis helps discover who you are.

In case you don’t know, I have one of the most amazing courses that I really recommend to help you discover who you are called “How to Be Your True Self“.

The course gives you all the tools, skills, and strategies to discover all the things about yourself, it has an 80+ pages of workbook full of quality questions to ask yourself that will also help you discover your true style, how to love yourself, how to design your dream and many more topics to cover.

If you would love to learn more and dive deep into the practice, please check it out.

With beautiful quality questions, you can practice being playful too. Most people have negative what-ifs, like “Oh, what if this happens?” and go into worry mode.

But you can practice asking yourself positive what-ifs: “What if it is possible? It would be so fun.“

Feeling calm, excited, and curious helps you discover more about yourself. Please don’t beat yourself up with low-quality questions.

Here is one quality question that helps to discover who you are, and I would love to hear from you in the comments section: What kind of adjectives would you love to express in your life? (something like Beauty? Elegance? Feminine? Classy? Fabulous? or Love? ) Please comment in the below. Asking yourself great questions is so fun, isn’t it?

4. Let Go of All “Shoulds” from Yourself and Others

The fourth step to be your true self is to let go of all “shoulds.”

This is the most important key step. As we grow up, we somehow make up our own stories or listen to other people’s opinions, thoughts, and belief systems and create all the should that are not serving us at all.

Something like, “Oh, I should wear this to be accepted,” “I should do this to be liked,” or “I should wear this to fit in.” Looking for external validation instead of your own validation.

All the shoulds and limiting thoughts and beliefs are what we learn as we grow up unnecessarily.

The most important thing to live your best life is to let go of all the shoulds and stay true to yourself.

You get to choose everything for yourself. Let’s practice letting go of all the shoulds and expectations from others.

5. Practice Not Caring What Others Think

The fifth step to be your true self is to not care what others think of you.

How much do you focus on yourself? Do you concentrate on what you think and feel, or do you spend more time worrying about what others thinking about you and your life?

As ladies and as human beings, we unconsciously think about what others think, don’t we? But here is the greatest news: You can only live your life. They cannot live your life.

We all have special gifts and talents within us. Don’t let those go because you are afraid and scared of what others think or how they judge you.

I always love the quote by Ms. Dita Von Teese

You can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world, and there’s still going to be somebody who hates peaches.

Dita Von Teese

People will judge you no matter what, whether you are being true to yourself or not. If so, then it is great to be your true self and be judged.

I think it takes practice, like building a muscle, to not care about what others think of you and your life. But once you truly own who you are and what you love, the magic and beauty increase so much. Focus on whatever feels true and best to you. I would love for you to keep following your heart. It is very important.

6. Build Self-Love and Trust by Listening to Your Inner Voice

The sixth step to be your true self is always to trust and listen to the little voice from your heart.

If you stay true to yourself, there are always hints everywhere. In this video, I talked about how I became vegan and how going to the place changed my life completely.

The place suddenly appeared on my phone—I didn’t search for it, but it was suggested. I became so curious and I kept listening to my heart. I felt I had to go there. Following my heart changed my life beautifully.

So in order to be your true self, if there is anything you want to try for a long time, don’t postpone or ignore it. Schedule it and keep listening to your little voice. It might help you discover the woman you came here to be, it might help you to find your own mission, a new vision, or a new version of yourself. The universe is always working in your favor. Let’s find the magic.

7. Try and Experiment with a Lot of Things

The final step to be your true self is to try and experiment with a lot of things.

At this point, you might say, “Mana, I practiced all the steps so far but still don’t know what my love and passion for my life are.” Well, if so, I highly recommend taking my favorite course and having two private guiding sessions with me, which are already included in the course.

And also, you can try, experiment, and experience many things.

In this digital era, we often tend to ask Google or other people what the experience is like that we want to try, but the most important thing is to keep experimenting yourself.

Have you done something that you wanted to try something deeply but someone said it was not worth it so quit? My goddess friend, everyone’s journey, perception, belief system, experience, and mission are completely different so please do keep following your heart.

You will not understand what you love or don’t like unless you try by yourself and experience.

You will truly understand what you love when you actually experience it, not by listening to others. So similar to step 6, if something is calling you inside, just try and experiment.

You can always ask my favorite question in the morning when you wake up: What exciting, fun, and new experience do I want to try today to make today so special?

Bonus: Love and Honor What You Love, Enjoy, and Cherish (Join How to Be Your True Self Course)

To be your true self, it is so important to accept and honor what you love and understand your own deep feelings, and your inner guidance.

It will make you feel beautiful inside out and more special about yourself, which is always gorgeous and elegant.

If you are loving those steps so far, thank you so much! I am so happy and appreciate you so much because personally, a few years ago, I was not connecting to my true self and I always felt stressed, tired, or out of control most of the time.

I made up all the stories by myself especially when it came to modeling. I thought had to wear all the blacks and fit into casual trends and have to have bangs and fierce in order to be a successful model. I didn’t like wearing all the blacks, I didn’t want to straighten my hair, I didn’t like the casual and sporty look, I didn’t want to cut my bangs so short from my heart but I didn’t listen to the voice inside of me so I was not happy, or excited.

Little heads up: Absolutely, I am truly grateful for every single opportunity and work of that time❤️ Those have also helped me become the next version of myself!

Plus, I didn’t know how to think intentionally and purposefully every day, and didn’t know what food to truly energize us with full vitality and how to style according to what I truly loved at the time but I finally got educated with lots of books and seminars. and now I mastered the part of especially how to be my true self and I am so passionate about teaching, helping, and guiding other like-minded beautiful ladies like you to share all the skills and strategies that helped me.

I truly believe that every one of us ladies has a unique talent and, special gift and it is the perfect time to claim our true selves and shine the brightest best version of us.

In the course, you will discover your true self fully, from simple questions to bringing awareness and intentions into your life. If you like this work so far, please check out the course.

On the website, you can also watch the video of details of the course. I can’t wait to see you there too💕And always, please feel free to reach out to me if you have any questions.

Conclusion

Becoming your true self is a little bit scary because your true self truly makes you stand out from the crowd, but I promise you, on the other side, once you stand in your true self, not only do you feel so much freedom, joy, happiness and fulfillment but also has a beautiful impact on others, your people, and your community.

Let’s be the best goddess version and share your gift with the world. the world is waiting for your true self💕✨

If you haven’t read it yet, I recommend checking the How to Trust Yourself article too, it will help you to be a confident and beautiful lady inside out.

Thank you so much for reading, until next time, stay beautiful and have a gorgeous week my goddess friend💖