Diane Von Furstenberg said,

The most important relationship is the one you have with yourself.

And I couldn’t agree more with her. In order to design, create, and live the best life you deeply want, it is time to embrace and build a strong relationship with your past, present, and future self. Today, I am excited to share with you how to cultivate a beautiful relationship with yourself. Are you excited? Let’s dive in. 

Hi gorgeous friend, how are you doing? I recently you know since I became a full-time entrepreneur, I have realized that something really important (laugh) which is to practice cultivating strong relationships with myself more than ever.

I mean with my past, present, and future self more than ever. This concept is 100% applicable to everyone who is watching or reading Haute Couture Life to up level your life so I am very excited to talk about it and I promise you, it will transform your life.

And my goddess friend, I just want to say thank you very much for always being part of beautiful goddess community. I appreciate it so much. I love you so much. Thank you💕

1. Past Self

So, firstly, let’s talk about the relationship with your past self. What is the past self? Let’s define the past self as who you were in the past. Maybe 5 minutes ago or 5 years ago. Something you had been in the past.

Do you often take time for yourself to reflect on your past and celebrate how much you have accomplished so far? When you look at your past self, how would you communicate with her?

Many of us, if we are not mindful, might say why did you do that, it was a mistake or I can’t believe it, what was I doing something like that, I’m surely I did it in the past. Many of us say ‘Oh I wish I had financial literacy back then’ and ‘Oh I wish I had studied that language’ ‘I wish I didn’t do it or I did it’ but you know what my friend, the past is done. We only have the now and the future. There is no upside to ever beating up on your past self and simply she just did what she knew was best at the time.

The past is not fact anymore. It is only in our imagination and we can make it mean anything. It is absolutely up to us to think of it as a mistake or a perfect learning opportunity for us to grow to the next level. And if you are honest with me, which is loving, beautiful, and uplifting? For sure to be recognized as a perfect learning opportunity, isn’t it?

I have always truly believed that everything is working out perfectly for the perfect reason in perfect timing and I am here to say that every thought and belief is optional. Please feel free to take this thought if you love it. We can make it mean whatever we want to and we will truly see and live life as it is. This is how our lives work.

When you look at your past self and even if you feel like you made a mistake, do you take time to forgive yourself and move on and focus on your present self and future self? When you truly forgive yourself for what you have done in the past, it is going to give you the ultimate freedom.

What can you learn from her and how would you forgive and hug her? Once you master the relationship with your past self, you will truly begin to love yourself deeply.

2. Present Self

Next, let’s talk about the relationship with your present self. Here, let’s define the present self as who you are in the moment, what you are thinking, feeling, doing, and being.

How is your relationship with your present self? I think the best way to cultivate a beautiful relationship with your present self is to keep asking yourself what you want and what you need in this moment intentionally.

Most of us, if we’re not mindful, we don’t learn how to love ourselves in school, so sometimes we doubt ourselves if it’s right, if I’m doing the right thing, if it’s correct. Can you relate to it?

The best way to have a deep love for your present self is to first be aware of what kind of words you are using towards yourself and what kind of thoughts or beliefs you have for yourself at this moment.

Is it empowering and loving? Do you truly practice believing that you are 120% capable, worthy, and enough no matter what?

Even though many people try to cultivate self-love and self-care to feel so good, how many people truly own self-worth and enoughness? And most importantly, understand and ask themselves how they want to live their life every day.

This is what we have unlearned but we need to learn again and here is what we have learnt it is time to unlearn that (laughs) as we grow up, we all carry many quote-unquote should be, do, have to be happy, but have you decided for yourself for your life?

I am 100% sure that we can cultivate true strong loving relationships with our present selves if we are really honest with ourselves.

We all have a choice to decide at this moment. Do you always practice prioritizing yourself first? Do you always choose the best? And if you love yourself deeply, what kind of actions do you take? When you get truly honest with yourself about what you want, how will you live life differently?

By the way, if you want to increase your love for your present self and your future self, I created a special and beautiful free goddess guide so you can practice every day and you can click here to get a free copy. It is so beautiful to increase your love level with your body, mind and spirit.

3. Future Self

Finally, let’s talk about the relationship with your future self. I would love to define it as your best, ideal, dream version of yourself, the one who made all your dreams come true.

What is your relationship with your future self? When I was introduced to the concept of living every day to make my future self proud, I had a huge transformation in my life.

Most of us make choices or decisions based on the past or present that are most likely it is okay but the best decision actually comes from the future. How many people choose something because ‘it worked in the past’, ‘I am that kind of person’, and ‘I know how to do it so I keep continuing to do it’? right, it is quite comfortable for the brain.

However, if you want to design and create the best life you deeply desire, you have to step out of your comfort zone, which is unknown and is our future. This is where the magic happens✨

Every decision we make leads to our future self. For example, at this moment you can choose to eat strawberry 🍓 or strawberry cake🍰 (laugh). You can choose to exercise for your future self or you can choose to start investing for your future self. Which choice will your future self be proud of that this present self has made?

Of course, we are all here to fully enjoy this moment and the future, but having discipline for your future self is also massive love for yourself.

One of the great exercises is that when you imagine your future self, how does she feel so grateful for what you are doing right now?

Another exercise is that if you face an obstacle in this moment, how would your future version of yourself talk to you?

I’m sure that she’s loving and graceful and she’ll say to you ‘Girl, you got this, it’s all perfect, you’re doing great, just don’t give up’.

Whenever you want to make a decision for the present and the future, it is always great to choose and decide from your future self so that you can move faster towards creating your dream life.

Here are some journal prompts I would like to give you for daily practice.

Journal This💖

How can you embrace, accept, and forgive your past self?

How can you love and have compassion for your present self? What do you really need right now? What do you really want right now? How can you make your future self proud? What decision can you make now to become your future self?

When you feel gratitude and pride for your past self, encouragement, and grace for your present self, and respect and love for your future self, your beautiful life is about to begin.

If you would like to learn more about what kind of life you want to create, remember who you are and practice being honest and true to yourself, please check our beautiful course called How to Be Your True Self. It is the one and only perfect place to remember who you are my goddess friend.

Let’s use our beautiful imagination and cultivate all our relationships with our past, present, and future.

When you master those relationships, you will blow your mind. Have a beautiful week my friend🌸, I can’t wait to see you next time.

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