Have you ever struggled to talk to people, especially when you feel shy or not confident enough? My goddess friend, this article is made just for you.

Today, I am going to share with you 5 simple steps and techniques on how to talk to people without being shy.

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Today’s video is all about how to talk to people without being shy. I would love to help and guide you in overcoming this challenge because, in the past, to become an international model, I had to overcome shyness and build confidence as well and it is an essential trait to becoming your most beautiful and elegant version of yourself. I am so excited to share this with you!

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1. Change Your Identity

The first step in learning how to talk to people without being shy is to change your identity.

This is a very important first step. As human beings, we often unconsciously or consciously practice the “I am” statement. The “I am” statement shapes how you think about and see yourself.

First of all, “I am shy” is just an identity that you’ve been practicing over and over for a long time. Shyness is often the opposite of confidence.

The “I am” statement is the most powerful phrase you ever speak. Whatever you say after “I am,” you feel and act like that.

In life, whatever you believe to be true, you prove it true and collect evidence to support it.

Did you know that you get to choose whatever you want to believe about yourself and you life? At any “I am” statement is available to you?

As beautiful and elegant ladies, we always want to choose our “I am” statements purposefully. Feeling confident is so much better than feeling shy. If “I am” statement isn’t serving you and doesn’t align with your ideal, future version of yourself, let’s stop saying it and move on to the next step.

2. Identify Your Dream, Ideal Version of Yourself

The second step in learning how to talk to people without being shy is to identify your dream, ideal version of yourself.

When you imagine your future self—the ideal, dream, or goddess version of yourself—instead of being shy, what kind of woman would you love to be? Probably more confident, bold, or audacious. ( or more playful, uplifting, inspiring, and fun!)

But especially if you’ve been saying “I am shy,” it’s quite a big jump to think and feel “I am so confident” isn’t it?

You can always practice changing your identity little by little with new actions to collect new evidence and here is what I mean.

If you want to change your identity from shy to confident, you can start by saying, “I keep thinking I am a shy person.”

Just adding “I keep thinking” builds self-awareness and allows you to observe yourself from the outside. Next, you can look for more possibilities. Remember a time when you took confident or bold actions in the past, and then practice small new actions, such as saying hello to new people, giving compliments, making eye contact, and smiling at a nice stranger something like actions that you might take if you weren’t shy.

Keep imagining your dream version of yourself. Think about how she thinks about herself and how she thinks about talking to people—probably as something fun and exciting. How would she interact with others? Keep visualizing her, and practice thinking, feeling, and acting like her, both mentally and physically, which leads to the next step.

3. Change Your Posture

The third step in learning how to talk to people without being shy is to change your posture.

How would you act physically when you want to talk to people when you are feeling shy? It probably doesn’t look so confident. Maybe your shoulders are hunched, your head is down, or you are not making so much eye contact.

Our body and facial expressions show a lot, and since our bodies and emotions are deeply connected, even if you’re not feeling confident at the moment, you can stand tall and keep your head up.

A great example is that when you look up, you can’t think about negative things, and when you look down, it’s harder to feel excited and motivated. Do you see how body and emotions are so connected?

You can always think about how your most confident self acts physically and practice being her.

4. Get Clear on the Outcome You Want

The fourth step in learning how to talk to people without being shy is to get clear on the outcome you want from the conversation.

It is always great to have and know the outcome of the conversation, whether it’s a speech, or building a new friendship or relationship. Please remember that if you talk to people to be liked or accepted, it’s harder to feel confident.

But if you own who you are, stay true to yourself, and you are clear about the kind of conversation you’d love to have, as well as your vision, goal, and purpose, it becomes easier to be confident.

What kind of topic would you love to have with the person? So, maybe at a café or party, when you’re attracted to certain people and want to talk to them. You can always smile, make eye contact, and start a small, positive, and happy conversation. Enjoy having a beautiful conversation!

5. Keep Showing Up as Your Dream Version of Yourself—Practice Makes Perfect!

The final step in learning how to talk to people without being shy is to keep practicing until you became her.

Maybe you are just afraid of being judged, disliked, or not accepted by others, which makes you shy. But here’s great news: you can build your confidence by practicing.

Even if someone judges or rejects you after you’ve had the courage to talk to them, it is often its just their projection of them. Nothing has gone wrong. This has nothing to do with your enoughness or worthiness.

And most importantly, understand that it’s just a feeling. It’s just a vibration in your body that is often uncomfortable and not a pleasant emotion. But you will be so good at staying true to yourself and talking to people confidently by practicing.

As ladies, we often think or take things too personally, but it’s just an opinion, and having a different opinion is completely normal because we all have different backgrounds, perspectives, and experiences.

No one is exactly the same, and that makes the world so much fun place. Plus when we have similar visions, values, and opinions, we often feel so good.

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Bonus: Positive, Uplifting, Fun, and Inspiring Conversations

This is a bonus, but I think it’s the most important.

The best technique is to always start a positive, uplifting, and fun conversation because everything is energy, and we always want to feel good in our lives, don’t we?

Some ladies start conversations unconsciously with negativity, such as, “It’s raining today and my clothes are wet,” although rain is great for nature. Or have you ever watched Singin’ in the Rain? Rain could be perfect for dancing😂💕. It’s just our perspective on how we think about things.

Or some ladies talk about gossip or other third-party business, which we truly want to avoid as beautiful and elegant ladies.

You can always start a conversation about how beautiful the place is, how lovely the flowers are—always focus on loving, beautiful, and positive things that make you glow from the inside out.

What you give out is often what you get. What kind of energy is behind the conversation? Always keep it loving, happy, and beautiful, and more of that will come to you.

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Conclusion

Whatever we practice, we get good at. Keep practicing your new identity, collect new evidence that you can confidently interact with others, embody your dream version, change your posture, get clear on the outcomes you want, and keep practicing all the steps until you master them.

Being confident means trusting yourself, knowing your worth, and having your own back, no matter what. Remember, when you stay true to yourself, you will naturally attract people who love and support you. Keep it up, my goddess friend—I’m cheering you on💖

If you have any questions, please let me know in the comments. I would love to support and guide you to be the most beautiful version of yourself!

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I hope this article helped you. Thank you so much for reading until the end. I appreciate you and love you always💖

Until next time, stay beautiful and have a gorgeous day, my goddess friend!